When locs bud…

I realized that I never talked about one of the most important stages of loc’ing.


The definition of budding comes from the book “Nice Dreads” by author Lonnice Brittenum Bonner. If you newbie-loc’ers don’t have this book, get it!! I got it as a gift and it really helped but a lot of things into perspective for me.

“You may notice that some of your coils have little knots of hair in them, about the size of a small pea. This knot is more or less the nucleus of each lock; the hairs in your coils have begun to intertwine and interlace. Individual coils may seem puffy and lose their tightly coiled shape; this is part of the process and shouldn’t be disturbed. What is important here is to keep the original scalp partings, to allow the spinning process to become established for each individual lock. Don’t redivide your budding locks, twist them to death, or get to patting them down, trying to make your hair look “nice,” because you’ll just end up with a badly packed, busted-out do.”

Buds are so funny looking to me and it’s interesting to see them turn into a loc. They can come at any time. My buds came about within the first month of loc’ing. Some new loc’ers find buds within a week.

Because I am going from latching back to palm rolling again, my locs are magically budding again.

Pretty cool, uh? It’s amazing to see buds transform and just as quickly at they come, they turn into locs. Woooooo!

To the strugglin’ loc’d ladies…

I dedicate this post to the ladies who are thinking about loc’ing or in their 1st-6th month of loc’ing.

Believe it or not, I didn’t always love my locs. In fact, I realllllly didn’t like them.

And here’s proof from one of my older posts…

 Told you. And that was only 8 days after my locs were installed. But wait…it gets worse…

Can I be honest? I am ashamed of myself. Who hides away from social activities because of their hair? For someone who claims to have reached this awesome level of self-love, there is no reason why I should have felt this way.

But I did. All because I wanted to achieve this…

But didn’t want to go through that…

It’s easy to understand that but hard as hell to go through it. I found that blogging about my journey made it worse because it was a constant reminder that I had a loooooong way to go. I was silly and anxious. Impatient and intolerant. All over hair. I now understand why they say that loc’ing your hair is a journey. Just wait and see how your thought processes will change. How your ideas will change. All prompted by the change and growth of your locs. It’s amazing.
And it’s worth the wait. I encourage y’all to hang in there. Surround yourself around like-minded folk. And I’m not saying all of your friends have to have locs but it is important to have a nice and strong support system. Follow blogs, read books, visit online resources. Educate yourself about what your hair is doing. This is a new journey and to go in it blindly will indeed lead to frustration. Even if you decide to loc without a professional, visit locticians in your area. Ask them for a consultation. Most will do so without charging you. Talk to other loc’ers. Get inspiration, advice and support from them.
And celebrate milestones. Made it through Month 3? Celebrate! Managed to get a ponytail? Celebrate! Colored your hair stupidly 4 times in a year and didn’t loose any locs? Celebrate! The more you thoroughly enjoy and acknowledge the loc’ing experience, the greater you will feel about yourself and your locs.

Now the UP side to blogging my loc journey is that I am able to look back. Each month I celebrated my locs. I look back at photos and am amazed at how far I’ve come. This, I think, is a must. A visual journey will keep you motivated. Document your journey. Write about it. Vlog it. I can’t tell y’all how many YouTube videos have inspired me to hang in there. And all these ladies were doing was talking about their locs. That’s it.

Educate others. If they ask “Why does your hair looks like that?” Tell them. If they want to touch the locs…slap them (hehe). I am the only loc’d lady in my family. I get a lot of questions. And  lot of disses too. I don’t care though. The more people ask about my hair, the less ignorant they will become. And the less ignorant people become, the better this world will be. Am I right, or am I right?

Yes, people may give you funny looks. Yes, people will assume that you don’t ever wash your hair. Yes, people will probably think you’re Rastafarian, vegan, super Afro-centric, a neo-hippie, unconventional, etc. Yes, people will judge you. You may be the only loc’d lady in your office, classroom, social circle or group. You may actually stand out.

And you know what? I don’t have a problem with it. I have embraced it and I love it. India Arie says “I am not my hair” but I disagree. My hair tells a story. It is strong, unique and versatile. It is constantly growing and changing.

And so I am.

Love your locs and always ALWAYS love yourself!

Curly locs=protective style

A friend of mine is loc’ing is was asking me about protective styles.

When I think of “protective styles” it reminds me of the styles that loose naturals do to protect their hair. It gave the hair a chance to rest while remaining untouched. It could help promote hair growth and give the hair and hair do-er a break. This was usually achieved by braids, twists, weaves and wigs.

I rarely did protective styles when I had a loose fro. But when I did I looooved them. I never thought to do one with my locs though. I assumed that the only way to do that would be with a wig on top of the locs.

Hell to the nah. Number one, you wouldn’t catch me wearing a wig. And number two, if I did get a wig, that mess would look hilarious on top of some locs. Am I right?

And then it dawned on me…curls! The curls you see have been in for a good week and a half.

 I’ll more than likely keep them in for another week or so. I would consider curls a protective style because you don’t have to do a thing to them yet you still manage to have a classy look. It takes some time for the curls to drop and I love how they last throughout sweaty work-outs. The curls prevent me from OCT (obsessive compulsive twisting) and no matter how I lay on them at night, I still wake up to them.

So yes, ladies…if you’re looking for a style that will prevent you from twisting/latching and look decent for weeks, curls is the way to go!

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Afro puffs and my baby Breeze..

Because I love little girls with afro puffs….

That’s British model Jamelia with her gorgeous daughters Tiani (3) and Teja (8). How adorable are they?
Did I ever tell y’all that I want to name one of my daughters’ Breeze? Every time I tell people that, they laugh. Haters, I say. That’s the coolest name ever!

Have a great weekend, y’all!!

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Sisterlocks vs. Traditional locs

There’s division in everything, right? Even in the loc’d community. It’s ridiculous if you ask me. But I can’t lie….it has been something I’ve thought about.

One of the reasons why I considered Sisterlocks is because I thought it would be a quicker and neater way to loc my hair. Sisterlocks are also a lot smaller and seem to provide a great deal of versatility. Not saying that traditional locs aren’t but Sisterlocks are closer to looser hair and you can do a lot more with them. I think?? And even after a few months of having locs I would always say, “The next time I loc, I’m doing Sisterlocks.”

I don’t really want them anymore. Not because they aren’t gorgeous but I actually like the look of larger traditional locs. It’s a personal thing, I suppose.

Are Sisterlocks more professional?
Are traditional locs not as attractive?

Who gives a crap. Locs are locs. The end.

But check out the article…

Very interesting, uh? What do y’all think?

Locs at 14 months

14 months, wow…the last few months of loc’ing have been a blur. In a good way. I went through the quite a bit, seems like.

There was the whole doubt in latching bit. And then I found a new washing routine. I made a funk-less ACV rinse but then came to the realization that putting ACV in the hair too often was no bueno. I didn’t latch/twist for a month and let my hair freeform for a bit. Which was WONDERFUL and so I’ve decided to not only complete ditch latching period but adopt semi-free forming. I will not always re-twist after washing. I will let my locs do their own thing and twist when I feel like it. And then I dyed one of my locs purple. Not only was it a total waste but it taught me to not color my hair anymore without a professional. THEN I went to my loctician for the first time in 7 months and fell in love all over again. I have decided to get my locs professional done at least every month or as needed.

I have also learned that my locs do a wonderful job in styles. Especially for my active work-out schedule. And so I curled them but did not finger comb the curls out.


You can’t see them but I used two rubber bands to pull a few locs up on one side.

 Looks like candy curls, uh? Except that one straight loc. There’s always one…ha!

Actually, I had a few straight locs. I pinned them with bobby pins and viola!

Loc’d power!!

One day mine will be a long as my homie’s.

I am so ridiculously in love with locs that it don’t make no sense. You can tell veteran loc’ers are used to the questions and admiration but me? Oh man!! I am forever staring at other peoples’ locs and getting all giddy when someone asks about mine. In.sane.

When the curls go away, I will do some comparison posts.

Until then….stay beautiful. I tried to be all artistic with that shot. HA!! #FAIL

What the….is that straight hair I see?

First of all, let’s talk about the awesomeness that is ‘locs that managed to stay twisted for almost 2 weeks’…


Pretty awesome, right? I took this pictures right before I washed my hair. I didn’t WANT to wash it but my hair was terribly itchy. I’m trying to get out of the habit of washing so much. Some folx wash their their locs like every 2-3 weeks and I don’t know, I don’t feel the need to wash THAT often. Even though I want to. Maybe I’ll do that when my locs are more mature.

Insane how well a style can last despite my daily hot and sweaty work-outs. I can’t wait to get another style when I go to the loctician. And I’m so glad to be back to palm rolling.

But check this out, do eyes deceive me? Is this bloody straight hurr?

Oh hells nah..two strands?

How in the world? A friend of mine once told me that perms can permanently damage hair follicles. Or somethin’ like that. Yeah, that makes sense and all but I ain’t have a perm in 5 years. And I know that we all have different hair textures growing all over the hair but come on….bone straight hair?

Earthquakes in Illinois. Snow in Florida. Straight hair in my locs. Ain’t that ’bout a bih?

Anywhoovers…after washing my hair I put in some perm rod rollers.

After taking them out I didn’t fluff the curls so I’ve been walking around with a old Hollywood (wait…I doubt there were Black actresses with locs back them) style. Kinda cute if I do say so myself. I will show pictures of that in my 14 month loc update post.

That’s right…the locs will be 14 months tomorrow. I was going to stop doing monthly loc updates but some of y’all were loosing sleep over the thought (lmao, I jest) so I’ll just do updates every 2 months, mkay?

My hair journey on Fotki…

Sorry for the lack of posts, y’all. I’ve been super busy with A LOT. Not to mention my hair is still in that style from when I went to the loctician. I am too lazy/tired to take it out so I haven’t been doing anything with my locs.

Which actually feels good. I may have to actually wash it soon though because it is sooooo itchy.

A reader sent me an email a few weeks ago and asked if I had a Fotki hair journal. Um, yeah! I totally forgot that I did. I saw pictures on there that I haven’t seen in years. So yeah…it isn’t as detailed as some people’s, but it does show my hair with a perm, during transitioning and after I BCed. Hit the photo below to head on over there.

And I shall return with mo betta posts!

Fro-back: My fro’s favorite place…

In college, I absolutely ADORED going to the beach a few times a week. My girlfriends and I would anxiously wait for Saturday. We would pack up the car with cheap snacks, towels and books and head 35 minutes South of Tampa Bay to Clearwater Beach.

Isn’t it crazy how looking back at old hairstyles can bring back soooo many memories? I’m shocked that my hair is as brown as it is in that picture. I colored my fro waaaaay too much.

Some things never change.

You know you love being natural when…

My homie Yana me this. I don’t know why I didn’t see it earlier since I love Clutch. I mean, LOVE!!

Fellow naturals, y’all know that this is true!

You Know You Love Being Natural When…

  • Either your T-shirt, tote bag, key chain or any other accessory says you are.
  • You can’t remember the last time you straightened your hair.
  • You have your own library of natural hair books.
  • You don’t own a flat iron.
  • You belong to more than one natural hair social networking community.
  • You have a natural hair blog.
  • TWA, ACV, EVOO, Co-wash, Poo/Pre-poo, EO and Hand-in-Fro are a part of your vocabulary.
  • You follow or subscribe to other naturals via Fotki, Facebook, Twitter, YouTube etc.
  • You are aware of the effects of petrolatum, SLS/SLES, parabens, paraffins, and ‘cones’ and you are not a chemist.
  • Instead of avoiding water, you run to it, even using it as a styling aid.

Y’all know I had to get in on the fun…

You know you love your locs when…
  • You haven’t combed/brushed your hair in months. Or years!
  • You use the same 2-4 products.
  • You refer to your locs as babies.
  • You know the stages that locs go through.
  • You ask other people about their locs and how old they are.
  • You have embraced the fuzzies and realize that they aren’t going anywhere.
  • You know the exact day and year you started loc’ing your hair.

Us naturals and loc’ers do tend to be a little clique-ish, don’t we? We have our own terminology and secret handshakes. Nah, I’m kidding about the latter but in a world of straight hair, I think it’s cool when afros and locs stand out.

But then again, I am biased. 🙂

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