Do you really love your locs?

This post is moreso my jotting down things that I need to be telling myself so bear with me here, okay? I know of a few ladies who also deal with with this and that inspired me to write a post about it.

What am I talking about, you ask?

I’m talking about people complimenting your locs and you responding with a “not so nice” comment. I know I can’t be the only one that does this…

Yes. Yours truly, natural hair blogger and editor downplays her hair. I didn’t even realize that I did it until a friend of mine brought it to my attention.

“Yo B,” she says. “Every time I compliment your locs, you come back with some negative crap about it. What’s with that? Don’t you love your hair?”

Because I HATE to be wrong, I was thisclose to telling her off. But after giving it some thought I realized that…she’s right. Every time someone says something nice about my hair, I usually follow back with one of the following:

-“Girl, it’s getting too long and hot.”
-“Pshhht, I need to wash it.”
-“I’ll probably cut it soon. It’s just SO hot.”
-“They’re hot, man. “
“This length is not the business.”
“Man, I hate that they’re so hot.”

Did you notice that 80% of the responses are of me complaining about how hot my hair is? True enough….this is the longest my hair has been in years and Florida’s heat and humidity makes having longer long a bit unpleasant.

And it’s not as if I don’t know how to accept a compliment, because I do. I am not a woman that doesn’t know her beauty. I do. I love receiving compliments as much as I love to dish them out. So why then do I have such a hard time accepting a compliment about my locs?

The short answer is I don’t know. I can’t say why I feel this way. A lot of love has gone into installing and growing my locs. My locs have enlightened me. My locs have inspired others. I really really love my locs. I’m quite attached to them. I’ve got to do a better job at receiving compliments. Being surrounded by positive energy is very important. Just how can I expect my locs to flourish if I’m talking so badly about them.

That changes. I will speak and think only positive thoughts about my locs. I encourage y’all to do the same. Even if you’re 7-month old locs still don’t look the way you want them too. Even if your 3-month old buds are fuzzier than you like. Speak positivity to your crown. And accept positivity too.

Q&A: Session 5

So sorry for the ghostness, y’all. With Loc Rocker’s older sister being hacked (a blogger’s worst nightmare) and Blogger giving me mega problems when it comes to putting a post up (Blogger sucks royally), I’ve been a bit behind. We haven’t done one of these in a while and I figured since I’ve been getting some interesting and similar questions these days, I figured it was time for another Q&A Session
Q: How do I ________ my Sisterlocks?
A: I get very many questions about Sisterlocks and interlocks. However, because I am a traditional loc rocker, I never feel confident enough to give out advice to ladies and gents whose loc’ing methods are so different from mine. That said I can’t tell you a thing about Sisterlocks. But I can lead you to better resources. One comes from my girl Dewdrop. ๐Ÿ˜‰
Q: Did you ever clear up your dry scalp issue? 

A: Oh you remember my complaints about the dry scalp, uh? The good news is—I’m not having that problem too much anymore. I think it has something to do with the weather. I think most peoples’ scalps tend to be a little drier in the cooler months. I also wash my locs a lot more (every week) so the scalp really never has time to get super dry. So yeah…it’s gone for now but I think a dry scalp is a chronic issue for me. No worries, I’ll have my Head and Shoulders 2-in-1 on deck when it’s time. ๐Ÿ˜‰ 
Q: I love your freeform challenge idea and want to completely start freeforming my 16 month old locks. How do you think I should start the process?
A: OMG, don’t even get me started on freeforming. It has been one of the best experiences ever. I see what people mean about having some kind of spiritual connection with their locs. I developed an insane amount of self-love and self-acceptance when I stopped twisting my locs to an inch of their lives and just let them….be. Fuzzy afro-roots and all. It’s a beautiful thing. But you see, my darling…there is NO process. There isn’t a schedule or a guide or road map. You just…let go. While it sounds simple, I guarantee you it may not be easy in the beginning. Especially if you’re a “I’ve got to see my scalp” kind of loc’er. You may feel unattractive and “unprofessional”. I know I did. But give it some days, weeks and months. Discover an authentic and unmaintained side of beauty. The side of beauty that says, “Yeah, I’ve got locs and they don’t have to super manicured to be beautiful.” Some permies say they can’t go natural because they don’t see the beauty in natural hair and my belief is that some of us naturals have a similar mentality. We can’t freeform because Whoa, that’s just way too “Rasta” looking. Or too “free”. I hate to admit it but I thought that way once. I’m rambling now but I am quite passionate about freeforming. It’s the greatest gift I’ve given to my locs and to myself. You’ll enjoy the journey. I promise.
Q: B, wtf is the deal with castile soap? My dreadlocks used to love it and now it doesn’t work as well.  i haven’t seen you talk about it in a while. do you use it still?
A: Nope! Sure don’t. My locs are not a fan of castile soap either. I used it A LOT back in the day but now I find it to be extremely drying on my color treated hair. That and I really don’t dig that super clean streak-y feeling that castile soap gives. It’s just…not pleasant. It left my locs really crunching. I now use more moisturizing shampoos and follow up with leave-in conditioners. My locs are a lot happier now that I’ve dumped castile soap. Remember I wrote that Letter to Castile soap? Yeah…that was pretty much around the time when I stopped using it.
Q: I can’t seem to find the best product to retwist my locs with. I’ve used everything and can’t seem to get that hold that I want. What do you think I should do?
A: Okay soooo, define HOLD for me. Are you looking to achieve some kind of liquid metal spritz type hold? The type of hold that us former permies would get at the hair salon after sitting under the dryer for 50 years? Nah…can’t say I’ve ever come across a product that can give THAT kind of hold. But why do you feel as if you need a hold like that? Are your locs struggling to stay twisted? If so, welcome to palmrolling. This method of locs means that even if you spent hours retwisting your new growth, there is always a chance that they may unravel. Especially when water, humidity and sweat is involved. I’ve heard of loc rockers using brown gels and have received a good hold. I’m an aloe vera gel (will soon be retwisting with just water) girl myself so I can’t say I’ve tried many products for retwisting.
Q: Don’t think I’m crazy but next month I’m getting locks and I am really nervous about what my boyfriend will think. You dont talk much about your guy but how does he feel about your locs?
A: You’re right….I don’t talk much about my guy (lovingly named “The Guy”) online. Sure I’ll talk about my dry scalp, crazy menstrual cycle and adult acne all willy nilly. But when it comes to my relationship, I find it better to keep it offline. The Guy and I have been dating for a little under a year so I had the locs when we met. He is not one of those fellas who are head over heels in love with natural hair. Nor was he ever questioning if I was going to perm it. Quite frankly, I don’t think he cares one way or the other. For a lot of guys, it really is JUST hair. They could give two craps about how it looks. And no, I don’t think you’re crazy. You definitely want to be attractive to your significant other. But if having locs is what YOU want, do it for you and only you. If you’re a little weary about his reaction, show him blogs and videos about loc’ing. Explain to him that it’s a process and that there may be times when you look a little loca. Ask him what he thinks. But whatever you do, don’t let his thoughts influence how you feel about your beautiful hair and beautiful self.

Then again, being that I’m in my first relationship after being chronically single for um….years, I may not be the BEST person to be delivering relationship advice. HAAA!!!

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Product Review: Peter Lamas’ Chinese Herbs Stimulating Shampoo

It’s been a hot lil’ minute since I’ve done a product review on Loc Rocker, uh? Product junkie-ism tends to die with locs because locs really don’t require too much product. Less is more and outside of a good shampoo, oil, conditioner (if you use it) and loc’ing agent (if you use it), what else do we need?

But I want to keep you guys up on the shampoos that I run into. Every now in then, I think it’s okay to try something new. That said, you already know the obsession I have with Peter Lamas’ Purifying Shampoo. I had the opportunity to test drive his Chinese Herbs Stimulating Shampoo…

Hit the jump to see what I’m thinkin’…

I received samples of the shampoo, conditioner, mist and styling cream, but my locs are so particular. The only product that I could use was the shampoo.

Per the website,

The Peter Lamas Chinese Herbs Stimulating Shampoo is a therapeutic, special-care formula empowered with Chinese herbs that have been used for centuries to stimulate and energize weak hair and scalp. This product gently removes hair follicle-blocking sebum and debris that can slow growth or cause premature hair loss. Mild and gentle, this extraordinary formula won’t irritate, strip away color or dehydrate hair or scalp. Helps alleviate dandruff and itchiness.

Sounds good enough, uh? I wanted to give it a good 2-3 uses but I used the entire bottle in only one wash. My hair needs a loooot of shampoo to really get a good cleansin’.

Like the Purifying Shampoo, this one smells absolutely divine. It suds up nicely and feels good on my scalp. It looks like a traditional shampoo but of course, it’s all natural.

It didn’t leave my hair super stripp-y but I didn’t love it as much as I love the Purifying Shampoo. It retails at $22 which is a little on the steep side. Keep in mind that Peter Lamas is an all-natural, vegan and cruelty-free brand. You’ll always get what you pay for and the Chinese Herbs Stimulating Shampoo is no different. If you can locate it in her natural food/heath store, I’d definitely give it a try. You can scoop it up online too.

Fascinators anyone?

One of my greatest friends here in Orlando is Christine. She’s a hardworking nurse by day and jewelry maker by night. I didn’t know about her hidden talent of making fascinators until a few months ago.

Don’t judge me but I didn’t even know what a fascinator until last year. Fascinators are intricate hair accessories. They come in various styles, colors and shapes. They include feathers, nets, buttons, bows and whatever trinkets the designer may dream up.

Chris makes stunning fascinators for women of all hair types. I’ll be doing a full feature of some of them soon but wanted to show y’all a few that she had on her when we recently got together for lunch. I happened to have my camera on me and started snappin’ away.

My girl T to the left and Christine to the right. She’s rockin’ one of her pieces.

Gorgeous, uh? Visit her Facebook page to get a peek at more stunning fascinators. She custom makes them to fit your style and event.

Stay tuned for giveaways….

Kim Coles’ Natural Hair Journey (video)

Y’all already know how much I love Kim Coles. I posted about her here and here. She’s back with another video of her transitioning to rocking her beautiful natural hair. I don’t know if it was the music (that song was dope) or what but I got a wee bit emotional. I love how she has embraced, supported and shouted out the natural hair community. Has this ever been done before by a celebrity? Maybe. Not on this level.

And I’d love her just the same if a few months or years down the road she decides to rock another hairstyle.

Stay beautiful, Kim Coles. We love you!! And uhhh…if you decide to rock the Maxine Shaw circa ’95 locs, you know the Loc Rockin’ crew has yo back!

Giveaway! Carol’s Daughter Rosemary Mint set!

Whose locs need some good purifyin’? I love how this duo is under the Locs tab on the Carol’s Daughter website. The shampoo is an absolute winner at removing build-up from your locs.

Carol’s Daughter is giving us FIVE sets of the wonderful Rosemary Purifying Mint shampoo and conditioner.

Here’s how you can win…

Simply leave a comment in this post only 
telling me where you’re from. Shout-out
your city, state or country!
Additional Rules:
-Open to U.S. residents only
-Contest ends Wednesday, July 13, 2010 at 4:00 pm EST
-Winner will be selected at random
-Family members/personal friends of B are not eligible
-In the event that a winner does not respond in 3 days, another person will be selected
-Click here for additional rules and regulations for giveaways hosted on
If you have any questions, email me at Good luck!

Freeform Summer Challenge: Check-In #1

For my ladies participating in the Summer Freeform Challenge…it’s time for an official check-in! Check-in’s can be a simple as letting us know your thoughts in the comments below to posting about it on your own blog. Kinda like how Naturaleza did.

I’ll do my check-in via photos.

Lez go…

I haven’t seen this much loose hair on my head since BEFORE I loc’d.

And that’s not a bad thing. In 2 days, it will make a good month of no retwisting. I’ve gone a month without retwisting before….hence why I wanted a challenge and opted for Track 2. But still, in the times when I didn’t retwist in a whole month, I didn’t wash the locs either. I’ve washed twice. Which has been such a treat for my locs.

I’ve had such a hard time getting the build-up out of those 3 locs. I’m leaving those to my loctician. I think I’m going to have her treat the locs to their first retwist after the challenge. Speaking of build-up, I’m thinking that my Organics Root Stimulator Loc & Twist gel may be contributing to it. Since I haven’t been retwisting, I haven’t been using it AND haven’t gotten any build-up.

That means when I start retwisting again….I’m going to try it with just water. Or at the very least, just aloe vera gel. Nothing more. The biggest struggle I have with these freeform locs is separating them after a wash.

Some tend to bind together and I’m left having to snatch them apart. Which is painful and damaging to my locs and scalp. But uh…I know of no other way to separate them. And separating them is a must.

Overall, I’m loving the look of these locs. I love how they look. I love how they feel. It’s a different look for me. So different that a friend whom I haven’t seen in months saw me and said, “Wow B…really lettin’ those locs go there, uh?” She didn’t mean to be rude. But I get what she’s saying. I look completely different with freeform locs and manicured locs. Not better. Just different.

And I dig that. Check-in, my sisters! If your name is in the table below, we’d love to get an update from you.

Other Summer Freeform Summer Challenge Posts:
The Official Post
Quick Freeform Style